1. I have not lost a close friend to date, Laurie, and I dread the day I do. I have lost my sister who was also my close friend and a few cousins who were also treasured friends. It is so hard to lose them, especially when in my mind it was too soon. So sorry about your loss and I know that friendships made later in life can be as strong as those rare lifelong relationships. Hugs.

    • Laurie Stone

      Thanks so much, Molly. I can’t imagine losing a sibling or cousins, so you’ve definitely had your losses too. I’m so sorry.

  2. Your perfect pitch and beautiful story about Susan resonates with me. We spent time as writers and became attached as friends. Susan was a very good writer and her comments about our pieces in progress delivered with intelligence, honesty and grace. Her passing has left a strange space among us -our group that sat around a table and no matter where touched each other in powerful ways.
    We think about her and are grateful she was our dear friend.

    • Laurie Stone

      Hinda, Thank you for your kind words. I still can’t believe she’s gone. You’re right. Her passing has left a space among us. It will probably always be there.

  3. Hi Laurie! Such a nice tribute to a friend. And I completely agree with you that even in the absence of a person–they live on in so many ways. How wonderful that you were able to connect with her for the time you did and is what I always remember when reading these types of posts–we all need to tell those we love how much they mean to us while we can. Thanks for that. ~Kathy

    • Laurie Stone

      Kathy, So true. Susan’s death was a shock. She seemed fine on New Year’s Eve, got sick, and passed a few months later. Life is so fleeting sometimes and unpredictable.

  4. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost a good friend of mine very suddenly several years ago when she was only 48. I think about her frequently, but especially on my birthday. I don’t guess I’ll ever get another year older and not think, “Linda would have loved to have been this age.” Losing a friend puts a lot of things about life into perspective.

    • Laurie Stone

      Shelley, Wow, Linda was very young when she passed. So sorry for your loss. And you’re right, the death of a beloved friend does put things in perspective.

  5. I’m so sorry for your loss Laurie but your beautiful memories of Susan spoke to me from the page and I feel that I know your wonderful friend. She would be proud of what you have written. I’ve been thinking lately I don’t want a funeral as they are so difficult for those close to us to go through. Maybe I’m being selfish as it is a way for family and friends to share memories of their loved one. People do live on, not in a physical sense but in their memories and stories. Keep sharing Susan and feel warmth and love as you remember. Thank you for a very poignant article.

    • Laurie Stone

      Sue, Thanks for your kind words. Yes, funerals always seem inadequate somehow. You’re brave in thinking about what you want when the time comes, I can’t go there yet. I think people do live on in some form. Its all very mysterious.

  6. This is SO lovely, Laurie. As we are watching my father in law’s last stages of cancer, I am thinking a lot about endings. “We leave when our role has ended” will resonate with me for a while. Thank you.

    • Laurie Stone

      Paula, I’m so sorry about your father-in-law. Its so hard watching someone die. I’m glad this resonated with you.

  7. The most meaningful funerals I have ever been to weren’t about summing up lives at all, but celebrating them. Singing songs, reviewing art, reading written works, keeping them alive with their works. <3

    • Laurie Stone

      Jess, So true. In some places, people give parties instead of funerals. I think that works if someone’s death wasn’t untimely. But I love the idea of celebrating a life and Susan’s had much to admire and inspire. Thank you for reading.

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