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  1. Anonymous

    Laurie, this is so wonderful, I'm sure your lovely mother in law knew many of your thoughts. What a beautiful piece. Lona

  2. This is a beautiful tribute to a woman who obviously had a positive, lasting impact on your life. You and she were lucky to know one another. I wish comfort and peace to your family during this difficult time of loss. Best, Karen

  3. Thank you. I will admit, at times our relationship could be rocky but I realized as I got older, she was very special. Sometimes distance (and unfortunately losing someone) makes us realize what we had.

  4. I loved my mother-in-law very much, but there were years in our time together when it was hard to find her, she was lost in a cloud of alcohol. Not her fault. But late in her life she was sober and such a joy. The things that had hidden her vibrant spirit were gone and she talked about her life and shared such amazing stories. God bless her always. Thanks for your post.

    • Laurie Stone

      Beth, Even the best MIL and DIL relationships can be tricky. I had a wonderful MIL but we still had our moments. I’m glad you and your MIL got along better in her later years. And wasn’t she strong to get out of alcohol’s grip?

  5. She knew… Even though you didn’t say those words to her, she knew how you felt about her, and it’s clear she appreciated and loved you. You were blessed to have such a woman in your life, but then you know that. xo Brenda

    • Laurie Stone

      Thanks so much, Jennifer. Like much of life, it took me a long time to realize what I had in her. With maturity comes perspective. Thank you for reading.

  6. Oh Laurie-this is beautiful! What a special woman! And how lovely that you appreciated her. Good MIL/DIL relationships are sometimes hard to come by, it sounds like yours was a keeper! Thanks for sharing!

    • Laurie Stone

      Thank you, Karen. We definitely had our tension over the years but never harsh words. I give her a lot of credit for that since I was usually the more immature! Thanks for reading.

  7. I’ve just discovered your blog and im glad that I was able to start with this post. My mother in law was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a few days before my daughter was born last august and passed away this January.

    She loved her family fiercely and although she initially had her issues when my husband and I started seeing each other (she was very attached to her son, a cultural thing) I greatly admired her love and dedication to her family.

    The might before she passed away I was able to hold her hand and thank her for being such a loving and caring grandmother to my children.

    It was actually her passing that inspired me to make some significant changes in my life, changes that I am still working on.

    • Laurie Stone

      Wow, Rebecca, sounds like a blog post in the making for you. Your mother-in-law sounds like a wonderful woman and how nice you were able to let her know in the end. This relationship can be tricky (mine was sometimes) but in the end, there’s mutual admiration. We all have one big thing in common — we love our sons/husbands. And in the end, that’s what matters. Thanks so much for reading.

  8. With mother-in-laws the usual butt of derogatory caricatures, it was so wonderful to read your tribute to your mother-in-law. I, too, had a kind and caring mother-in-law and I make it my especial business to be a supportive and non-judgmental presence for my daughter-in-law, who I dearly love. She has a close relationship with her mother and i think that has helped her make room for me.

    • Laurie Stone

      I think we learn how to be mothers-in-law by watching the mother of our husband. Joyce and I had our moments, but looking back, she taught so much and I loved her more than I realized. Thanks for reading.

  9. Did not have a great relationship with mine. Lost both of my parents last year. So important to say things while we have the time. More often than not, I failed to do so. I live in Houston. Born & raised here so I am familiar with the whole Homecoming Queen/Southern thing! Beautiful tribute.

    • Laurie Stone

      Thank you so much, Cathy. So sorry about the loss of your parents. I lost my Dad a year ago. And you’re right. We need to say what we need to say, while our loved ones are still here.

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