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  1. I enjoyed living solo in my twenties, before getting married, but I've never really ventured out on a solo getaway like yours. There is this little B&B I've eyed for just this purpose. Maybe I should take the plunge and book it.

  2. My mom has always been comfortable traveling solo. I am fine with going for a meal or a movie alone, but I have not yet done a long weekend. (I don't count business trips because they always come with built-in itineraries.) This sounds so restorative and blissful…I may just give it a try! I do send the hubby off for a boys' night with out of town friends now and again, and the solitude is blissful. Even the closest of couples need a few degrees of separation now and again… 🙂

  3. I wish more women would do this! I was lucky enough to be on my own for most of my 20s. And now am alone for part of my 40s. The security of knowing I am my own best company, can handle the bellmen, the bills, the whatever–that is peace. At least for me. And moodling time is always a good thing:). Good for you!

  4. Thank you. It could be because I married young and never had that single time, I now crave seeing the world from time to time on my own. Especially since Randy's burnt out on travel. Something's calling to me out there!

  5. I live alone but still long to get away for a few days by myself. I keep telling myself I'm going to so maybe reading about your experience is just what I need to push myself. I've got access to an apartment in NYC but also like the idea of being in the mountains or near water. I'm in CT too, lots of towns along the shoreline. Congratulations on picking a beautiful seaside Inn.

  6. This seemed to resonate with so many women. I think we all long to be out in the world on our own at times. It gives a new perspective on life and ourselves. If in CT, I recommend the Inn at Longshore in Westport. Its lovely.

  7. Such a great post. Sometimes when I awaken, I think of the time that might come when I will live alone–and I realize that building toward those moments in some increments is healthy and good. I too have gone away for weekends by myself, but never out of the country. Keep us posted!!

    • Laurie Stone

      Thanks Beth. I’m working up to international travel by myself, although you never know. It intimidates me, to be honest. Still, the weekends away are wonderful. Thanks for reading.

  8. Solitude is indeed so essential!

    I love how Susan Cain’s book, “Quiet”, somehow legitimized introversion. I was raised believing it was strange that I was happy to be alone … that I, in fact, needed time alone. My mother and step-father would shake their heads and say I was weird.

    But not so, and I now reclaim it and proudly proclaim it! We need to revive, review, and reflect. We need to go deep.

    A weekend alone can be a beautiful thing.

    • Laurie Stone

      I loved that book! In fact, I had the same experience. It helped me realize I wasn’t strange needing alone time. And yes, a weekend alone can be a beautiful thing. I want to plan another one soon.

    • Laurie Stone

      Beth, You should give it a try. After such a long marriage, it took me a while to work up to it. And yet when I went away for a weekend, I loved it.

    • Laurie Stone

      Bonnie, I have to become braver about it. I know women who do it all the time. Its definitely on my to-list for 2016 and beyond.

      • Last year I actually did a solo paddle from Waterford, N.Y. down the Hudson River to NYC (my home). I’d never done anything quite like that before but it had been a pipe dream of mine for a long time and last year everything suddenly fell nicely into place to actually do it – so I did.

        It was AWESOME.

  9. So funny! I was just thinking this morning that my most desired Christmas gift would be one full day to myself with no regular chores. I sounds indulgent but as you point out, that alone time can rejuvenate and allow you to see things you miss on an everyday basis. Thanks you the share!

  10. I have lived alone now for four years, my favorite trips are road trips by myself, there is something about the open road, a few CD’s I pick up along the way that I have held off on buying for awhile.
    Stopping somewhere beautiful to have a picnic alone, or grabbing the blanket and your book for an afternoon read.
    I usually take a solo trip once a year to visit my Dad’s grave, it sounds depressing- but it’s actually one of the most uplifting things I do.
    I take three days of reflection, three days of treating myself to whatever I want.
    And at the end I visit a man I had a very strained relationship with when he was living, but now feel totally at peace with.

    • Laurie Stone

      Kristin, Sounds wonderful and you’re inspiring me to take another solo trip for a few days. Three sounds perfect. Thank you for reading.

  11. I love going off by myself sometimes too. It’s not the same as being home alone–because like you said, there are too many distractions at home and it is really just more of the same old, same old. A little luxury or pampering–or whatever you crave–is very good for the soul, especially for us in our “second adulthood” of midlife, re-discovering who we are, who we’ve become and who we yet want to be!

  12. I absolutely adore traveling on my own. Before I met my husband, I booked a B&B for myself every three months. I’ve had to scale back on that, but your piece has whet my appetite for a solo adventure. Thank you!

    • Laurie Stone

      Pam, This piece (which is a few years old) has whet my own appetite again! Hope you enjoy your next solo adventure.

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