1. Love this post. When my hubs was active duty, the first couple weeks were the hardest. Then I got into my own routine with my furkids and settled in. When he would return, some 4-6 months later, it was a bit of readjustment period. There were times that I missed him terribly, but others, I enjoyed my new found freedom of being my own person again.

    It’s a double-edge sword. 🙂


    • Laurie Stone

      I agree, Bren. I think breaks are wonderful (if not essential) for marriages. Its good for women to get a sense of independence. I always loved these interludes. Thanks for reading.

  2. I loved this! I so get the whole Lord of the Flies eating thing – when my husband is away I eat microwave meals and icecream. I run around singing “home alone” and spreading out starfish-wise in the bed. But like you, after a few days it’s nice to have him home again.

    • Laurie Stone

      You got it, Leanne. Its fun to have an “anything goes” time, but then nice to have them home again. Thanks for reading.

  3. Helene Cohen Bludman

    I do the same thing when my husband is away! I watch awful tv shows and have popcorn for dinner.

    • Laurie Stone

      I’m the same way, Sharon. I hate lying there, wondering what each creak is. I’d rather stay up late and knock myself out.

  4. I love this, I could have written this, I am exactly like this. What resonated most: after you’ve had your little “just me” fling, that moment when you think, I’m tired of having Triscuits and cheese for dinner and I’d really like to see his headlights right now.

    • Laurie Stone

      Susan, Isn’t that the truth? Its nice to have the fling, but you’re right, its nice for him to come home too. Thanks for reading.

  5. Awww, this was so sweet and funny and true! I love the line about your bed looking like Woodstock (and the Lord of the Flies reference, genius!). But, I must tell you, Laurie, fudge ripple ice cream is in fact a main course–as is salted caramel ice cream if eaten with peanut M&Ms. Tip, buy a new bag of M&Ms and eat them down to the level they were before your husband left town and then he’ll be really impressed that you stayed away from the chocolate while he was gone.

    Great post!

    • Laurie Stone

      Lee, Figures you would have the most ingenious techniques for peanut M&M’s and husbands. Salted caramel? Mama Mia, that sounds good. Will have to try!

    • Laurie Stone

      Linda, I think there’s a whole book to be written on the secret life of wives when their husbands leave town. It could be quite eye-opening!

  6. Michele

    Hi from Sydney (in the midst of a crazy heatwave – thank God for aircon).

    Just discovered your blog, it’s terrific! I’m about to hit 60 and can’t quite believe it! How the hell did that happen? lol

    I so relate to this post! When my husband says “I’m really sorry love, but I have to go on a business trip for a few days next week”, I try to look sad, however inside my head I’m doing a little happy dance.
    I can binge-watch my favourite Netflix series in bed, (“will that ep be much longer love?”) whilst on my laptop (” you’re always on that bloody thing – you need to take a break”), with my dog (” does he really have to be on the bed?”) nestled beside me and a cup of tea (or maybe wine) and a snack (“are you still hungry after that big dinner?, I couldn’t eat a thing!”).

    • Laurie Stone

      Michele, Sounds like we live in parallel universes, even though we’re half a planet away. Thank you for your kind words. Come back and visit anytime!

  7. The only time we were allowed to have mac and cheese (out of that cool blue box!) when I was growing up was when my dad was out of town on business. My 4 brothers and I thought this was such a treat, LOL! My mom probably thought we were crazy, but loved how easy dinner was on those nights. Great post! 🙂

  8. This was funny, Laurie, I loved the line about your bed looking like Woodstock. I can relate to so much in this post, except I don’t have a cat. I think one of the hardest things about spending a few days alone is meals. I hate to eat alone and it seems so empty and unsatisfying. There are other indulgences however, that I enjoy, like watching a chick flick or other TV shows that I like and he doesn’t.

    • Laurie Stone

      Molly, I have to admit, I totally love having a few days to myself, meals and all. Then I start missing him. Sometimes absence does make the heart grow fonder.

    • Laurie Stone

      I shudder to think what I’d eat if left only to my own devices. Having a husband and grown son home definitely keep me honest.

  9. Yes, when my husband is away, which isn’t really often, I completely take over the bed with books and laptops and ipads, but never food. I can’t stand crumbs in a bed.

    • Laurie Stone

      Jennifer, I love eating in bed…one of my many character flaws. I try and be neat, but sometimes messes occur. There is something luxurious about having a big bed to yourself.

  10. So true. I do every thing from our bed rather than going back down stairs, watch all my shows and stay up late too! Sadly I leave town today for 3 days so I’m wondering how he will fare!

    • Laurie Stone

      Andrea, Its funny how routine changes when husband is out of town. I’m glad I’m not the only “bed person” out there. I think its my favorite place in the house.

  11. Love it. When my “chef in chief” travels its a rush for all take-out menus within 2-3 blocks! We try to keep everything else “as is”, i.e. bed times, wake-up times, tidiness of the house etc. But when it comes to eating, its get down to the bare basics and LOTS of take out. 🙂

    • Laurie Stone

      Darlene, I could easily eat cheese and crackers every night. My husband would faint. Its nice to take breaks from “real dinner” nights.

    • Laurie Stone

      Shari, Time apart does make the heart grow fonder. I have to confess, now my husband is retired and never travels. So, now I take my own little jaunts to get some distance and time to myself. Love them.

  12. I really realize all the things he does and then I have to do them! The cats are really unhappy. When I travel, more often than my husband, he says he does fine and the cats are happy, hmmmm

    • Laurie Stone

      Haralee, When I go away, the rules loosen a lot. My husband allows my dog to sleep in the bed with him, something I never do. Sounds like your kitties are given extra privileges too when Mom’s away!

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