Women

Who Were History’s Most “Nasty Women?”

They didn’t care what people thought. They followed their own rules. Many enjoyed shocking the bourgeois. They were history’s “Nasty Women,” as today’s saying goes. This got me thinking. Why are these feisty females so fascinating? Here are my 5 favorites in no particular order… May West – This actress, singer, comedian, and playwright was … Read more »

The Place I Go

There’s a place I go, ducking in while others work or tend their children.  I have mixed emotions about this pastime, this guilty pleasure fast becoming a habit.  Even a few months ago, I shunned it as unnecessary and frivolous.  Now I can’t seem to stay away.  Just the other day I entered and asked … Read more »

And The Countdown to Sixty Begins…(and I’m fine with it… really…I’m fine…gulp).

My God, my 60th birthday’s barreling down faster than Usain Bolt in Rio. There’s less than one month to go and I’m feeling a funny brew. There’s definitely a “Holy-sh*t, how did I get here?” vibe. After all, I was twenty-five a week ago. But underneath all that is something else, a funny hum I … Read more »

What’s on Your Summer Teacup List?

Have you heard of the teacup list? Instead of the bucket list with its dramatic, “before-I-die” goals, we have the teacup list. Instead of feeling panicked you haven’t gone on that cross-country road trip or hiked in Thailand or parachuted in the Gobi desert, you shrink all expectations. With this in mind, here in no … Read more »

 5 Crucial Life Lessons from “The Real Housewives” (Yes, I’m serious)

Admitting you watch an occasional Real Housewives episode is like admitting you sometimes eat an entire pepperoni pizza by yourself. It’s gross, embarrassing, and unhealthy. Yet…you can’t promise you’ll never do it again. What is it about looking into other people’s lives (even in a fake, staged way) that’s so compelling? For me, I … Read more »

Why Should Teenagers Have all the Fun?

Let’s face it. For many of us, adolescence was a disaster. We had pimples, were socially awkward, and rarely interested in school. But looking back, other parts weren’t so bad. Those years shaped and taught us in ways we could never have foreseen. Once in a while, I’ll see glimpses of that teenager, not only … Read more »

Think You’re Too Old In Your 50s? Think Again. (Huffington Post)

(0) Comments| Posted December 22, 2015 | 7:54 AM

Admit it. When you were young, you thought being in your 50s was older than dirt. You couldn’t imagine being that aged and decrepit. But then the years moved forward. And here you are. The strangest thing is you look around and realize things aren’t so bad. In fact, here…

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The Sexy Life of a Bookworm (Huffington Post)

(7) Comments| Posted March 15, 2016 | 1:30 PM

You know that feeling. You’re minding your own business when you hear or see words… interesting, seductive, tantalizing words. Someone’s speaking or maybe you read them in print. You want to hear more from this author. Maybe they have wisdom or humor or a great story. That’s when, against your…

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The 7 Coolest Things About Being an Introvert

You know the feeling. You spend much of your life thinking something’s wrong. You’re alone a lot, usually with your nose in a book or daydreaming. But then someone puts a label on it and everything falls into place. You’re an introvert. You’re wired differently. And even better, you realize this trait comes with some … Read more »

Should You Tell Your Age?

Dr. Christiane Northrup was on PBS recently, vivacious, intelligent and fascinating as ever.  She’s a wonderful role model, full of advice about growing older, especially for women. However, one thing she said perplexed me. “Never tell people your age,” she advised her audience.  “Don’t celebrate your birthdays, even the milestones.  Society will foist cultural conditioning on … Read more »

7 Reasons to Stay a Woman

Lots of people are changing gender these days. And I’m sympathetic with the notion of being born in the wrong body. But it got me thinking. Would I rather be a guy? How would it feel ambling through life with better pay, more corporate and political clout, not to mention a bigger, stronger body? Would … Read more »

The Three Most Surprising Things about Aging…

It happened this week.  I was minding my own business when out of the blue, with no warning…I turned 58.  (Yes, I’m one of those women who tell their age.  I say to hell with it.) If you asked in my teens or twenties, what this time would be like I would’ve conjured up … Read more »

8 Amazing Perks to a Weekend Alone…

Have you ever had the urge to get away by yourself?  Just luxuriate in your own company? I recently spent a weekend alone, which was…okay…incredible.  And afterwards, I realized it helped in 8 vital ways… First, I didn’t have to go far.  I travelled thirty minutes to a beautiful seaside inn on Long Island Sound.  I had a lovely view of … Read more »

Can Life Begin Again at 80?

You think life is one way, but then realize its not. In fact, its different than you imagined. This happened to me recently when I had lunch with my mother who’s in her 80’s. That’s when I saw I have this whole aging thing wrong and maybe even backwards. Here’s what I discovered… You never … Read more »

Advice to my Younger Self

Forty years ago I turned seventeen, young and dewy, so eager to begin.  If I could go back in time, what would I say to this insecure, vulnerable creature?  What would you say to your seventeen old self?  Here’s what I’d tell mine…    … Read more »

Confessions of an Introvert

Something happens to me a lot.  My husband Randy’s in a wonderful, local band.  He, Warren and Danny are a power trio, lighting up the local pubs and bars with great, danceable music.  The crowds love them.  It’s a great party.  People are always asking what time I’ll be there. They assume I never tire of … Read more »

6 Horrors of Women’s Fitting Rooms (and How I Escaped) (Huffington Post)

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You know you don’t like them. They’re bad places. Mean, awful, humiliating things happen. I usually avoid these cubicles like too-tight panti-hose, but this week I needed something quick. And it only confirmed 6 awful aspects of women’s fitting rooms…

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The 6 Life Stages of the Summer Carnival

I feel the tug.  But I drive by and pretend I don’t care.  My kids are grown.  Why go anymore?  Then I roll down the window.  I smell the popcorn and hear the tinny music.  Memories take me back. And that’s when I realize the summer carnival has seen me through 6 major life stages… The Small … Read more »

5 Guilty Pleasures I Should Give Up… but Probably Won’t.

If character is defined by what we do, I’m in trouble.  Yes, I perform some worthwhile, productive services here and there, but so much is spent on time-wasting drivel.  Sometimes I wonder how much better, healthier and smarter I’d be if I gave up a few of the following…. Spending too much time on Facebook – Between … Read more »

3 Ways to Tell if You’re a Nerd…

Let’s face it.  There’s a part of all of us that want to believe we’re in the cool crowd, one of the “in” people.   For many years I wanted to believe I was a happening chick till indisputable facts got in the way.  Do you ever wonder the same?  Then you must ask yourself … Read more »

How To Have a No-Sweat Christmas

This will be my 35th Christmas as a married woman and I have to admit, ten years ago I was resentful.  This holiday was all about material stuff and deadlines and ornaments and work. Now I know women who love this holiday and do it to perfection.  Their homes would make Martha Stewart jealous.  They … Read more »

Why Am I Afraid of Doctors?

Today I had my annual eye exam, the least intrusive of all check-ups.  (Yes, I rank them).  But even this once benign routine has turned high-tech and threatening.  What used to be a quick look to see if I need stronger contacts now involves a strange, whirring machine inspecting deep inside my retina.  What used … Read more »

I Flunked the Holiday House Tour (Westport News)

I’ve always had a dicey relationship with Christmas.  In terms of life’s pleasures, its somewhere between magical fantasy and a triathalon.  Dragging a full-grown tree in and out of my home each year, schlepping through endless stores, and hearing loops of Madonna’s ‘Santa Baby’ are slightly more fun than drinking old eggnog.  So last year when … Read more »