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  1. Still in the throes of middle school here and the last-minute out-the-door mayhem is in full effect every week day morning. I know it’s going to get harder though……the blur of high school and then the silence of an empty nest. I see it on the horizon and it reminds me to hug them a little more and listen when they talk to me.

    • Laurie Stone

      Bryce, Sounds like you have the right idea. It does go blindingly fast, although when you’re in the middle, its hard to keep that perspective.

  2. This post brought tears.
    So many things I miss. I loved being home with all my littles!
    For a while, our youngest daughter and her daughter lived with us and I was once again at the forefront of busses, homework and dinner conversations. But since they moved, it’s Husby and me. Our evenings are quiet and I love that. But I miss those tough, often confusing days of kids and . . . stuff!

    • Laurie Stone

      Diane, When we’re in the thick of it, parenthood is hard to get perspective on. But now with time and distance, little things make me ache with nostalgia.

  3. I do miss Christmas morning. I loved decorating for Christmas and the excitement of my son as he opened his presents. We still get together for Christmas morning, we still have Christmas breakfast but that excitement of old is missing.

  4. Tears. <3 There is a bittersweet feeling when think of my Christmases Future. Of course I love Christmas for the very young and very old, I'm one of those people that I live for the festivities of the holidays!

    • Laurie Stone

      Jess, I’m a Thanksgiving lover. I don’t know why except maybe its just one day, a really good meal, and no gifts. I’ve even gotten more sentimental about Christmas over the years. I see more and more how every holiday is precious.

  5. I think we were the only family in South Africa who WOKE our children on Christmas morning! Reason? We were in the ministry, and it was imperative that we got everyone dressed and to church before 9 a.m. And we couldn’t go without opening prezzies first. All five of us. One at a time. Looking back, I think we were a little – make that a lot – crazy. We should have allowed everyone to open three gifts – then had breakfast and got to church. So I miss that time, but I don’t miss the 4.30 am wake-up call! Eighty-year-old and her Walk to Freedom

    • Laurie Stone

      Shirley, Sounds like an amazing story about living in South Africa… with 5 children! As for Christmas, we all look back and wish we did things differently. Thank you for including your link. I’ll be sure to read it.

  6. I don’t miss the teen years where I worried when they weren’t home by midnight–or whatever the curfew was.
    I don’t miss teaching them to drive.
    I don’t miss watching soccer games in the rain but I do miss being part of that greater universe.
    I miss my kids–they don’t live in the same city as me. both are a 1-hour flight away. at least they are both on the same coast as me now.

    • Laurie Stone

      Oh my God, those early driving days when I couldn’t sleep either because they were still out! Its the worst. But thank God, we survived. I’m thankful my sons are both close, distance-wise. At least your kids are a quick plane ride, versus cross-country. That makes things easier.

  7. I can relate to this post so much Laurie. I love your memories and those special moments. I remember sitting in a park recently watching parents and toddlers and I had a flood of nostalgia for those long gone days -the innocence, the dependence and the simple love. It’s a lovely way of looking back and you’re so right, at the time you don’t realise those little moments will become so big later on. Lovely post. Mind you I don’t miss too much about parenting three teenage daughters.

    • Laurie Stone

      Debbie, Thanks for the kind words. Having two sons, I can’t imagine parenting girls. It must be so different than boys, especially psychologically.

  8. This made me LOL, “That’s the annoying thing with kids. They need dinner every day.” So true!!! My youngest is a junior in high school and every day I find myself listening and waiting for him to walk in the door at the same time after school. I think I will be ok with the whole “empty nest” thing, but I know for sure that for quite awhile at that time of day I will have a bit of a moment missing my kids when there is no one to wait for anymore.

    • Laurie Stone

      Monica, I have 1/2 an empty nest. One son is gone and the other is home, but out a lot. I can’t imagine a completely empty nest and like you, part of me will still be still waiting for their footsteps.

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