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  1. I’m glad I’m not the only one hesitant about downsizing. My head says that it would be a great idea as it would be more economical but my heart is currently saying otherwise.

    • Laurie Stone

      Linda, What a great way to put it. The decision is truly between head and heart. Never thought of it that way, but you nailed it.

  2. I feel exactly how you feel! It’s such a hard decision. I figure the house needs to be cleaned out anyway, so I am doing it with the thought of downsizing. We probably won’t go soon, but at least the house will be clutter free and ready for when we are.

    • Laurie Stone

      Lori, Unfortunately for us, I don’t think the house will stay clutter free for long. We must strike while the iron’s hot. Glad we’re not the only ones going through this!

    • Laurie Stone

      Monica, That’s a great attitude. I love the idea of having the grandkid house, but also find myself hankering for another chapter. Maybe we’ll feel differently when we must make the final decision.

    • Laurie Stone

      Tony, Moving is intense whether its your first or twentieth time. Its such a hassle. I don’t know how people do it every few years!

  3. I’ve been where you are now, and it’s both heartbreaking and exhilarating… if you let it be the latter. When I met my second husband, after having been widowed for 10 years and living in my home for 20, I told him he’d have to carry me out of there in a wooden box. But there came a time when I knew the house and the yard were more than I wanted to maintain and it was time. Would you believe I never looked back as we drove down the driveway for the last time? Never glanced over my shoulder? If I had it to do all over again, I wouldn’t change a thing. You already know what to expect, living where you are, but you don’t know the life and excitement of creating that next chapter of your life. Go for it and embrace it… and get Randy on eBay! xox, Brenda

    • Laurie Stone

      Wow, Brenda. Exactly what I needed to hear. Yes, my curiosity over a new life is a “little” bit more than my heartache of leaving. You’re so right about staying and knowing what to expect, where leaving involves unlimited horizons which excite me. So well put, thank you.

  4. We moved a few years ago after 21 years in our old place. We downsized our land from 2 acres to suburbia but our house is much the same size. Still room for the family to visit, but less to maintain. Neither of us are pack rats so we don’t have piles of “stuff” but there was still a lot to sort and donate or toss out – where do all those coffee cups come from?? Good luck and I don’t envy you the task of parting Randy from his collections.

    • Laurie Stone

      Leanne, Thank you. The task ahead is daunting, but I feel we can do it. Sounds like you guys also made the right decision.

  5. Even great opportunities usually require you to leave something familiar and dear to you. That doesn’t help much when thoughts of future holidays and past milestones tug at you.

    Let it come, let it go, it’s all part of it. If you can imagine the wonderful things that can come next, you’ll make them happen.

    Good luck.

    • Laurie Stone

      Susan, Its so true about the coming and goings of feelings. I find I’m usually left knowing moving is the right thing to do, even though sometimes I feel those other tugs.

  6. I wish you luck. It is work but opportunities await!
    I helped a friend yard sale her in-laws stuff and they were stuff collectors for the last 3 years.The yard salable stuff is finally gone but there are about 20 boxes of china, crystal, etc, non yard sale stuff, that has been categorized and will go on eBay or consignment. Don’t do this to your kids is my take away from my experience!

    • Laurie Stone

      Harlalee, I can’t imagine having all that stuff. Although I did read your blog post about yard sales, which is giving me ideas. Oh oh, I sense another debate with Randy coming up.

  7. Our lives changed and we sold the home our kids grew up in when we moved back to my hometown and in with my father. We spent a very fast summer finishing all the projects, painting, purging, packing, and finally selling. When the day came to lock the doors and leave it was really emotional for me. While there was a side that knew it was the right thing to do and we were trying to look at it as a new chapter, it was sad to think that our daughter (who had left for college the week before) would never return to her “real home” for a holiday. I had to take a little time in each room before I could leave the key on the kitchen counter and walk out. Even 2 years later I miss aspects of our old life in that house but try to remind myself that life is about people and not walls.

    • Laurie Stone

      Shelley, I’ll be the same way, very emotional about leaving. I love the way you took a little time in each room, saying goodbye. Getting misty-eyed just thinking about that.

  8. When we left KY to move to SC and got rid of just about everything I thought I would never get over all of the things I would miss desperately. Six years later I cannot even remember what it was! I was a nervous wreck but it’s kind of like me cutting all of my hair off this past weekend. I thought it would kill me, turns out I can’t believe I waited so long to do it and I don’t even miss it! It will be hard but at the end of it you will feel happier because what is in the new place will be things that you absolutely love!

    • Laurie Stone

      Rena, Such wise words. Funny, I thought I’d weep with nostalgia every time I heard a school bus, once my kids had grown. Now I never even notice them. I think the same will be said for leaving this home for another. Thank you.

  9. My experience was one mixed with excitement and sadness. I don’t regret selling our big house. I don’t regret being closer to my grandchildren. I do miss my friends in Iowa and I do regret some of the things I gave away. Downsizing is tough but it has its rewards.

    • Laurie Stone

      Beth, Thankfully we’ll move close to where we are now. Yes, leaving a state and starting a new life would be very challenging. Sounds like you did a good job.

  10. I found the first time I downsized, after a divorce to be the easiest. I was getting rid of a past life to start fresh. But my current husband and I recently downsized to move in with my 98-year-old mother. It was much harder to downsize because it’s our life together. There was not “fresh start” that I was moving towards. Did we do it? Yes. But yes, there are still a lot of boxes that we need to take care of.

  11. We are in the exact same situation – ready to downsize, but dreading it. I have been slowly purging things. Cleaning out the garage, drawers, etc. I seems I am downsizing everything, except my hips!

    • Laurie Stone

      Ellen, Laughing. Yes, those stubborn hips! Sounds like you’re doing things like me. I rather chip away at something slowly than have a mountain to move later on.

  12. We’re trying to downsize inside our house and just get rid of years worth of crap that we don’t need. We love our house and can’t see selling it but we need to minimize the amount of stuff. It’s very freeing to purge. Good luck with the next chapter!

    • Laurie Stone

      Anna, I love the way you put it… a mixture of loss and opportunity. That’s definitely how it feels, a strange intersection in life.

  13. We won’t be moving anytime soon but we are focused on getting rid of all the junk (his) and gems (mine) that we no longer need. I love the feeling of having empty cabinets and closets with plenty of space. Good luck on your journey; selling a house that you’ve lived in for 15 years can’t be easy.

    • Laurie Stone

      Janis, Thanks so much and it is a journey! Or maybe the end of one journey and beginning of another. I also love the feeling of empty cabinets and closets… spaciousness is luxurious.

  14. Yep, I’m there with you and not looking forward to it…but it is a Must! I can’t afford to take care of this old place any more! So where to go, what to do, what to keep, what to let go of?? yeah, not looking forward to that part…but am looking forward to the next chapter and what it holds… good luck to us both..

    • Laurie Stone

      Renee, So true. Too many questions and I’m also getting a little nervous. The future’s uncertain. Yes, here’s to good luck for both of us!

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