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  1. Love this post! When I went to my 25 year reunion, I was amazed to see a few who harbored ill feelings from things that happened in high school. Other were friendly and actually talked to the ones they would have snubbed in high school. To say I would go back if I had the chance? Oh heck no. Sometimes it’s best to let that evil rest. 🙂

    Thanks for the giggles!

  2. I don’t think I’d ever want to go back to those terribly insecure high school years Laurie, but I wish with all my heart I had some of the wisdom we have now. All those things you listed and more would have been so much easier if I’d loved myself a little and been less bothered by what I thought other people were thinking!

    • Laurie Stone

      Leanne, I see high school kids now and I see (despite the sometimes tough exteriors), all that vulnerability. I wouldn’t want to go back to those years either.

    • Laurie Stone

      Jeremy, Interesting. Time travel would be cool. You go back, be the person you always wanted to be (having all this hindsight), but return to the present. It would make a great sci-fi story!

  3. You are so right on every point. Excellent!

    I went back to a reunion a few years ago. It was for anyone who graduated in the `970’s. I thought I’d have a good time but I didn’t. I felt like nothing really changed and I didn’t feel like spending time with most of the people there because my best friends, who I still have today, couldn’t go. Lesson learned! Next time I’ll have a reunion with only my 3 friends!

    • Laurie Stone

      Cathy, I completely get that. I always walk away a little empty, and haven’t gone back in about 10 years. They make me feel like I’m back in high school!

  4. High school was such a vulnerable time, but I get a kick out of the reunions and seeing how much we have grown up. Well, at least most of us.

    • Laurie Stone

      Pat, Most people are nicer, but some have that same silly snobbery. They never quite grew out of that. Maybe that sense of entitlement and superiority came from their parents? Who knows.

    • Laurie Stone

      Marcia, There’s nothing like time to soften personalities. I’m always astounded by how the meanest girls became the nicest adults.

  5. OMGosh – I can so relate to this! I have to admit though that after all these years I’ve never been to a class reunion (not because I’m too cool though). But I have been surprised when I’ve run into former classmates as to how things turned out.

    • Laurie Stone

      Shelley, I have mixed feelings about the reunions. Its always good to reconnect, but after an hour or two, I’m ready to go back to the present. I feel like I’m back in high school at these events, which isn’t always pleasant.

  6. They did tell me all these things, I was just sure that the old folk were wrong. I wish I had listened– especially about the juice cans.

  7. Why didn’t we know how good enough we already were?! Is it possible for my waistline to go back to 1975, but let me take the internet and smart phones with me? By the way, I am not above lying on my bed and listening to Janis Ian even now when I’m really in a fit of nostalgia!

    • Laurie Stone

      Lee, I swear, you and I are soul sisters. I would also love the same, waist but still have my smart phone. Yes, I’m embarrassed to admit, Janis can still work wonders. Its too funny.

  8. Yes. If only I knew then what I know now. I am one of the lucky ones who not only carried some friends from high school right through to today but through our reunions, reconnected with more. The biggest lesson learned was that although I hated my skin and my hair and hated all pictures of me then….I look back on them now and all I can see is the wrinkle free skin!

    • Laurie Stone

      Jennifer, Like much of life, high school came with gifts we only see in hindsight. I held on to college friends more than high school for some reason, (married one, in fact), but I now wish I had tried harder to make friends in high school.

  9. I love this post! So much truth and I’m saving this to remind me to tell my daughter all of these things ahead of time when high school rolls around.
    I still have zero desire to attend a reunion, though. Ever. 😀

    • Laurie Stone

      Lisa, I always come away from reunions with mixed feelings — both glad I went and somehow disappointed. Yes, I wish I had known all this stuff before high school, but maybe we had to learn it for ourselves.

  10. I often think about how different it would be if you could go back to school and your teens knowing what you do now. But I guess it doesn’t work that way – you wouldn’t be who you are now without going through that developmental not knowing stage, and if you’d known it all then, you’d probably have become a completely different person.

    • Laurie Stone

      Lucy, In some ways, I wouldn’t be that different if I went back to high school now — knowing what I know. I’d probably be the same quiet, bookish chick I was back then.

    • Laurie Stone

      Anna, Haven’t seen Bobby since 10 years out of high school, so who knows. Maybe he aged gracefully. Yes, orange juice cans were as ridiculous as they sound. Now I wish I just let my hair curl on its own!

  11. I studied 70% of the time and worked the other 30% of the time, so I REALLY wish I had joined things. I used to take piano lessons and had stopped. BIG regret now…looking back I wish I had kept it up. Maybe it’s not too late to pick it up again?

    • Laurie Stone

      Lori, So many of us were insecure in those years. I think its harder on sensitive, introvert types who don’t realize we’re just wired different. It would’ve helped to know that in high school.

    • Laurie Stone

      Diane, I was always astounded by how many popular kids were also insecure. Maybe they just hid it better. Who knew?

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