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  1. I like to think our son is a gentleman too – he is considerate of others, a loving husband, and shows a great deal of wisdom. I think bringing our sons (and daughters) up to be confident in themselves and yet respectful of others pays off when they absorb that deep into their characters and live it out as adults. It gives me a great deal of satisfaction and pride when I look at my adult “kids” and see what great people they’ve become. So glad you have the same pleasure.

    • Laurie Stone

      Yes, Leanne, it gives me a wonderful feeling to not only love my children, but like and respect them as people. If they weren’t my sons, I’d still like them. I take great pride and joy in that.

  2. Really agree with you…… and I worry about my son (17) who at times surprises me with his sensitivity and kindness but more often than not ……doesn’t. I guess it’s a work in progress and I hope all our sons embody the four characteristics you share here!

    • Laurie Stone

      Thanks so much, Paula. I wouldn’t worry at 17. Males are still pretty immature at that age. The fact that you see signs peeking out here and there is what counts.

  3. Can we nominate you for some kind of office? This was such a good, and timely, piece. I’m so proud of my stepsons–their mom and dad did a great job. Everyone who meets them always says the same thing–that they are such gentlemen. And they really are. Your boys are blessed to have you and Randy as role models.

    • Laurie Stone

      Lee, You never fail to make me laugh! Running for office is something I never considered. I can’t imagine a more fun, lively, interesting step-Mom than you. Those boys are quite lucky.

  4. I love this post. My son is now 31, and a father to both a two year old daughter and a two week old son. It’s been wonderful to see him grow as a man, a husband, a father, and a gentleman. Thank you for sharing!

    • Laurie Stone

      Thanks so much, Mary Fran. I know, its wonderful watching your child grow from boy to man. Part of who he is, he owes to you. Thank you for reading.

  5. My husband raised our four sons to be true gentlemen. His definition? Someone who makes everyone around them as comfortable as possible. As adults, they are fun to be with. I guess he had the right idea! 🙂

    • Laurie Stone

      Diane, I think your husband’s definition is perfect. You raised four sons? Wow, you could teach classes in raising gentlemen! Thanks for reading.

  6. These are all worthy qualities in men, but are not always the ones emphasized by modern culture. A depressing number of people think a vain, cruel, loud-mouthed bully would make a great American president, for example.

  7. I love this topic, being a mom of teen boys.

    One conversation we’re having a lot recently is about misogyny in the gaming industry and when there’s a female protagonist in action or science fiction movies. I think this is an especially important topic to have with sons. I was amazed to find out there’s a huge backlash against the latest installment in the upcoming Star Wars movie because of its female lead, and then I looked into the subject, and the same could be said of every sci-fi movie with a powerful woman in a lead role going back decades. And women in the gaming industry are belittled, made fun of, and threatened on a regular basis. It’s shameful.

    I’ve always loved that my sons are kind to animals, attentive to their grandparents, use good table manners, etc. Now I’m talking to them about how people behave when they’re behind the cloak of anonymity, and about some of the awful, shocking comments they make online, particularly when it comes to gaming and entertainment.

    I’ve never been one to believe that there is any such thing as “just words,” especially when those words are vile.

    • Laurie Stone

      I totally agree there’s no such thing as “just words.” I think we need more nice guys in this world and those videos do nothing but encourage violence among each other and toward women. My kids also went through that phase and thank God, went out of it eventually. Sounds like you’re on the case. Thanks for reading!

    • Laurie Stone

      Linda, I have two grown sons and love when I see them being gentlemen. You have four sons?? You are (or have been) one busy lady!

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