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  1. Dana

    Sounds like you’ve got a couple of great kids! Way to go! Oh, and start expecting the girls to be beating a path to thier door, soon! 🙂

  2. Erik Erikson

    Great piece Laurie. We have our 15 year old Emily at home and some days I just sit there wishing for those past days of a little kid running round the house or looking forward to the day when she will snap out of this current stage. How long can a person sit in their bedroom on a perfectly fine day? When will she agin answer a question in more than one syllable? I know she has all the ingredients to be all that we want her to be. I see it shine through on occasion, but this age is sometimes so frustrating. You give me hope. Thanks for sharing.

    • Laurie Stone

      Erik, Judging by myself at that age, I can only give consolation. I’m not sure how my parents survived. The good news is she’ll mature and someday be not only your daughter, but one of your best friends. Thanks for reading.

  3. My nest has been empty for a few years now but I could identify with everything you said. Three sons, huge relief at the men they’ve become when teenagehood was so very trying – and terrifying. Now my home is often filled with the patter of tiny granddaughter Goddess feet (four of them!) and when they go home with their dads and mums, Hubby and I revel in the quiet space. Fear of the adjustment to an empty nest was much worse than the actual transformation.

    • Laurie Stone

      Tamuria, How nice to have granddaughters, after all that maleness. I have to admit, all that quiet sounds really nice. Thanks for reading.

  4. Lea Sylvestro

    Loved reading the way your kids’ interests and disquieting habits turned into career paths and talents. Envy Patrick’s ability to translate a yummy Pinterest item into a delicious dinner! Happiness. As to the empty nest, I still get nostalgic when spotting a little one in a shopping cart, wishing I had one of my kids still in mine. It’s such an adjustment once they leave home…but you do get used to the freedom and the ability to move by your own rhythms again.

    • Laurie Stone

      Lea, to be honest I”m ready to get that extra guest room, but while the guys are home, I enjoy them. Thanks for reading!

  5. There is nothing more rewarding than growing-up our children and seeing them sprout into wonderful adults. Good job, mom!! My youngest daughter has graduated and passed a particular exam for a licence needed to practice. She has several jobs she is applying for then she will be gone! She’s 28 and had a long, circuitous route to college graduation. My husband and I have been married 2.5 years, so we’re looking forward to the empty nest!

    • Laurie Stone

      I agree Terri. Watching those little tots sprout up into fully-functional adults is incredibly rewarding. Thanks for reading.

  6. No empty nest for me yet, but it’s bound to happen someday. After it happens, I’ll definitely be sad about it most the time — but not when I’m trying to get into the bathroom in the morning.

    • Laurie Stone

      Bun, Most parents adjust quite well, not only to the empty bathroom but to the next, exciting phase of life. I’m sure you’ll be one of them.

  7. Our surviving son moved back home a couple of months ago to accept a job with Amazon. He had been out of the house for ten years! I am savoring this time too, I know it won’t last forever. I marvel at how grown-up and confident he is, how capable, and wise.

    I loved hearing about your sons and your journey, what delightful young men! Wishing you many moments of just shooting the breeze around the table.

    PS: I love your blog design with the books, reminds me of my house.

    • Laurie Stone

      Thank you so much, Terri. Your son sounds delightful as well. How nice it is to watch our children grow. And thank you for mentioning the book design. I love it too!

  8. Gives me hope. We only have one chick in our nest but he is allergic to classrooms, the word ‘school’ and ‘learn’. He’s coming round to the idea of ‘education’ He is 8! I’m determined to help him broaden out his world and keep offering activities. At first it is ‘No’ but then he likes it. At the moment his 2 obsessions are pigeons and computer animation.

    • Laurie Stone

      Jennie, Your boy will find his way. They all do. Its nice that he has passions now. Sometimes they’re a key to what he’ll want to do when older. Thanks for reading.

  9. I’m so encouraged by your story! It helps to have hope for my own kids once they’re out on their own path. So lovely to hear how your boys have come into their own, as well. Not to mention, having a personal chef in your kitchen would be awesome!

    • Laurie Stone

      Thanks so much, Laurie. Although we’re ready to have the house to ourselves, we have great sons. We’re lucky. Thanks for reading.

  10. Loving and liking them…yes, it’s grand! My two sons (and my daughter too) are all off the payroll, and are parents themselves now. I find a slight shift in the relationships we have, and can have conversations with them as adults. I don’t think it scares any of us! This was a lovely post and a tribute to you and your sons.

  11. Oh the ups and downs of the empty nester life! One day your ready for them to leave and the next day you can’t imagine how sad you’ll be when they go. So glad you are taking each moment and day as it comes to enjoy and savor the grown ups they have become! Congrats on a job well done. Heck-free music, cooking and therapy is a good deal.

  12. Beautiful post. It sounds like you’ve done a wonderful job with your sons, and you should be proud. My sons are still very young and already – already – I am dreading the day they move out. I’d love to keep them around forever.

    • Laurie Stone

      Faye, My oldest is moving out in a few days and I admit the feelings are bittersweet. Its definitely the end of an era.

  13. our “kids” left home years ago to go to uni and then stayed away when they found jobs and partners. I love that the transition was fairly easy for us – we knew they’d leave and we prepared them and ourselves so they could be independent. I still love it when they come home to visit though 🙂

    • Laurie Stone

      Leanne, Our oldest is moving out in a few days and I have to admit, the feeling’s bittersweet. Still, I’m ready. Its time.

  14. I have 5 children – eldest son left home to live with his dad at the age of 16 (he is now 26 & looking for his own flat to buy); my daughter left home at 18 as part of her trainee hotel management course … at 22 she has a good assistant manager position in a hotel & lives in a flat nearby with her boyfriend; my 18 year old son is about to leave for University this September…just leaving my two young sons 9 & 10. Looking back, I left home at 21 when I first got married; my younger sister left home at 17 to pursue her holiday camp entertainer job dream! I never really thought about the nest emptying – my children just seemed to embark on their own lives and left us with empty rooms … almost time to downsize! 😊

    • Laurie Stone

      Linda, A lot of people had your experience, but my kids needed a little more nudging. My oldest is moving in a few days and its very bittersweet. Its the right thing to do, but I’ll miss him.

  15. This is beautiful. They sound like wonderful young men. &, yes, you definitely got lucky on how useful they are – a therapist and a chef in the house sounds fantastic!

    • Laurie Stone

      My therapist is about to move out… sniff, sniff. All for the best, however, and I get that guest room.

  16. Laurie, again your post captures my heart! Your sons sound delightful–good job, mom! My 28-yr old daughter still occupies her old bedroom and has finished college. If all goes well, she will move out of town completely for a job as a recreation therapist for a state psychiatric hospital. Not sure who I will miss more, her or her sweet dog!

    • Laurie Stone

      Thanks so much, Molly. They’re good kids and Patrick is moving out in two days. I’ll get that much coveted guest room!

  17. How wonderful it is to see your kids ease into adulthood! Both of ours are on their own -two years now!- but they both come over nearly every Sunday for dinner and it’s so great to sit and talk and laugh as we use to but also to hear them talking together with their sig others like adults one minute then like the kids they were the next.
    This chapter of all our lives is still being written. It’s a treat to be able to enjoy it.

    • Laurie Stone

      Laura, Its funny, my son Patrick has moved out, but he also comes over every Sunday. I can’t help compare it to when he was little. Each foray out on the playground was followed by a quick hug by Mom. Children need to balance independence with security. Maybe those Sunday dinners are the same thing.

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